Totally agree, high tier carrier matches are terrible. No matter what you do, as a cv captain, there always will be a person cursing you for whatnot...
I had this one time when i shot down 16 planes in a couple of strafes, defending a friendly BB (sailing straight, of course). He took a torpedo or two and started insulting me for not providing air and ' learn to play'... I've already had several krakens with the kaga, with damage dealt above 130k and at least 25-30 planes shot per match.
That's why i abandoned the taiho and went back to kaga. Tiers 6-7 are the best.