I gess that's not easy to balance this game once it's driven away from reality.
In reality you don't see shells shooted at you, nor yours flying to enemy, When you see columns of water around an enemy it's hard to tell if they comes from your shells or a teammate's.
In reality a DD at 35 knots need 30 seconds to start to change course, a BB over 2 minutes. A CA (like the Myoko) needs 10 minutes from 0 to 30 knots. 305mm gun can fire at almost 20 Km, not only 10 Km, 405mm guns can fire at 36 Km.
Japanese torpedoes run on oxygen leaving no bubble trail, which means they are not detectable, they run invisible.
Now... how many and which compromises are acceptable to play WoWs?