Don't worry it just gets worse when you hit T7+, (currently playing Fubuki close to Kagero) they are all basically the same same with kagero only having 2 torp launchers.
IMO if you like pain and really hate your life keep playing JP DDs else go for USA.
JP dd play style is shoot torps > hide > wait for torps > repeat, don't even try to use your main cannons.